do you know what emotional abuse is?

10/14/2015 4 Comments

It is October 14th… Happy Birthday in Heaven, Nana. And it is the deadline I gave myself to start posting regularly (scary…  ????). It may not come to a surprise to some of you but… I waited until the very last minute to write this. It was part fear and part “busy”ness that held me back. Don’t get me wrong, I have thought about what I wanted my first post to be… but nothing stuck with me. Not until yesterday!

This month is not only Breast Cancer Awareness month but it is also National Domestic Abuse Awareness month and I decided we should chat about emotional (psychological or verbal) abuse.

Let’s look at how Wikipedia defines psychological abuse:

Psychological abuse, also referred to as emotional abuse or mental abuse, is a form of abuse characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder.[/su_quote]

ok….. do we now have a better understanding of what emotional abuse is? 

A few months ago, I was sitting at a coffee house with a friend and she was telling me about someone that comes to visit her at work who had been physically abused. This woman has children and was having a hard time financially. I immediately got chills and then… my thoughts went somewhere else. Without research, I knew there was a lot of support for women who have been or are enduring physical abuse… programs, shelters, even commercials!  At this time, I had just began studying childhood adversity and developmental trauma. I noticed there is a lack of support for women who have experienced or are experiencing emotional abuse. And just like that, I was off on a tangent in my mind.

Do you know what emotional abuse is? Do you know anyone who has been through it?


My goal is to offer support to women who have been or are being emotionally abused, whether they know it or not. Yes… you read that right. Many times these women are so {mentally} beaten down that they don’t even know they are being abused. They think it is all them. They think they are wrong, defective, to blame. They tend to feel isolated and their self-worth depletes.

I will be writing much more on this topic from what I have learned through research and from my own experiences. I also, created a Facebook page, The Empowerful Woman, to build a community of women who are taking back their power and recognizing the beauty and strength within themselves. Not just from emotional abuse but from the self-defeating patterns they might be stuck in.

If you have a story of your own that you would like to share you can comment here or email me at And if you are or know a professional who works with women who have suffered through childhood adversities, emotional abuse or trauma, I would love to connect.

with ❤︎,
sharena xo


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  • Sara Chic 10/14/2015 at 9:29 pm

    You are amazing! This topic should touch every woman. Once one has the courage to share, the domino effect that follows is amazing. I see too many young girls accepting this at 15, 16, 17 and too many young boys thinking this is how it should be. Removing the stigma and speaking it “out loud” is the beginning of the battle.

    • sharena 10/16/2015 at 6:51 am

      thank you! I am so passionate about this topic. it’s amazing to me what we, as women & young ladies, will accept from our partners and also from our friends and families. i want to build a community, a support system for women who are ready to take back their power and reinvent their lives.

  • Sara 01/05/2016 at 12:34 pm

    A million times YES! I’m a blogger and a public speaker, and a lot of my engagements are based on abuse. I’d love to connect with you!

    • sharena 01/19/2016 at 11:55 am

      Hi Sara! I would love to connect. I recently saw your blog post (I can’t remember which one…) but as I was searching for it, I found many more that I bring it home for me!

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